With so many marriages going up in flames many people are turned off by the whole idea of it. How can it last for a lifetime? What makes some marriages last and yet others fall apart at the seams? Many of the marriages that do last are nothing to write home about, so why do
Ben was nervous as he drove to Sarah’s apartment for their first date. Had he taken care of everything? He made reservations at the nicest restaurant, showered, put on his favorite outfit and was arriving just a few minutes late to give her a bit more time. Sarah was rushing inside her apartment which was
Jack and Harriet were fighting for days when they first came to my office. They walked in separately and sat as far away from each other as they possibly could. What was wrong? Harriet blurted out “He just won’t listen, all he cares about is being right.” To which Jack fired back, “If you weren’t
If you can hold in mind your love for each other and keep that before you at times of great difficulty and in all situations… If you can make being right less important than being connected, and instead work toward harmony and grace… If you can keep your head while everything in you screams for
I opened my Facebook page the other day and a scrolled down to find a video from the Anderson Cooper show, Anderson, featuring the renowned couples therapist Dr. John Gottman, who wrote the best seller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. In the clip, various couples illustrate examples of some of his principles, like
How to recognize and treat porn addiction before it destroys your relationship. Janet and Ben came in for couple’s therapy because she had caught him watching internet porn. He was looking at “Cheerleaders Gone Wild”: videos featuring girls who are barely 18 years old. To her it was a betrayal and tantamount to watching child
My wife and I celebrated our 20th anniversary this week. I suppose we are as shocked as anyone that not only did we make it, but we feel more in love than ever. At this rather momentous moment I began to think about the benefits of being married. Why marriage instead of simply living together?
“It’s weird, marriage. It’s like this license that gives a person the legal right to control their spouse / their ‘other half.”― Jess C. Scott, Blind Leading Another “They say all marriages are made in heaven, but so are thunder and lightning.” ― Clint Eastwood When John and Mary came in for couple’s therapy she
The other night while at dinner with some friends (all married or with someone) something occurred that is so common I barely took notice of it. One of the women popped up and went to the restroom and four other women jumped up and went with her. We’ve seen this a million times. They go
My wife and I were having breakfast last Sunday at our favorite spot, after our morning walk with our pooch. We got to talking about what successful relationships were made of. I was delighted that she came up with some great ideas about what successful couples do. I must say, I could not have said