How to recognize and treat porn addiction before it destroys your relationship. Janet and Ben came in for couple’s therapy because she had caught him watching internet porn. He was looking at “Cheerleaders Gone Wild”: videos featuring girls who are barely 18 years old. To her it was a betrayal and tantamount to watching child
My wife and I celebrated our 20th anniversary this week. I suppose we are as shocked as anyone that not only did we make it, but we feel more in love than ever. At this rather momentous moment I began to think about the benefits of being married. Why marriage instead of simply living together?
“It’s weird, marriage. It’s like this license that gives a person the legal right to control their spouse / their ‘other half.”― Jess C. Scott, Blind Leading Another “They say all marriages are made in heaven, but so are thunder and lightning.” ― Clint Eastwood When John and Mary came in for couple’s therapy she
The other night while at dinner with some friends (all married or with someone) something occurred that is so common I barely took notice of it. One of the women popped up and went to the restroom and four other women jumped up and went with her. We’ve seen this a million times. They go
My wife and I were having breakfast last Sunday at our favorite spot, after our morning walk with our pooch. We got to talking about what successful relationships were made of. I was delighted that she came up with some great ideas about what successful couples do. I must say, I could not have said
Can we have great sex with someone and not have a good relationship? The answer is sometimes we can, but mostly we can’t. Good sex does mean that the connection and intimacy we have with our mate does translate into more intimacy. However, it’s not the whole story. Sexual relationships often hinge on whether couples
“Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I’m 64” laments the Beatles song. When I was young no one in our generation wanted to live past thirty, it was considered to be too old. Now we watch a 71 year old Mick Jagger prance and leap like he’s a youngster as
To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone “Death ends a life, not a relationship.” ― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie The dreaded phone call finally came on a Friday morning. My brother’s words were somber as he explained that my 93 year
“Through the fire all that remains is gold.” —Anonymous Adam was a student of relationships: he had them down pat, or so he thought. Then he met Zoe. She was an attorney and didn’t suffer fools. She shot from the hip and he loved it. It was like a cool drink of water finding someone
Jeri-Ann and Chas were having breakfast at their favorite restaurant on the beach one Sunday morning when an incident triggered a series of nuclear reactions. All those emotional neutrons and protons smacking up against each other set off a chain reaction that seemed to come out of nowhere. Jeri-Ann caught Chas in a white lie.